tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8597548.post111015436154698237..comments2023-04-02T09:36:55.898+00:00Comments on GROOVY BANANAS!: sins of the fatherGroovy Nutterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01513666277164124552noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8597548.post-1110409058657362202005-03-09T22:57:00.000+00:002005-03-09T22:57:00.000+00:00I think it was very brave of you to write this pos...I think it was very brave of you to write this post. Personally, I think our “stuff” is as relevant a string in the fiber of who we are as anything else is, and as strange as this may sound, I think our “scary stuff” has as much a place in our lives as our clarity does. I think we maybe come to terms with letting our stuff find its place in our lives, and the older I get, the less I think we ever actually rid ourselves of it. If we did rid ourselves of our stuff, what would happen to the theory of “he/she pressed my button”, which is exactly what your little man did. I think where you want to get yourself is to a place where when the button is pressed, you are in charge of the feelings that come to the surface, rather than them taking over and manipulating your actions. Our children are our most honest critics and are such amazing mirror images of who we ourselves are, it would be a pity to waste the ongoing lessons they are sent to teach us. Don’t under estimate your effectiveness as a parent and don’t beat yourself up for what you did. It’s done, and I somehow don’t think he will spend too many years in therapy over a patz in tochas. I think what is important though is to give him the time to explain, not justify, that every action has a consequence, and when our actions are unacceptable to the people around us, the consequence is likely to be unpleasant. You rock as a Mom!Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07713535267887962588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8597548.post-1110198237343287972005-03-07T12:23:00.000+00:002005-03-07T12:23:00.000+00:00Yades:
I think we all overeact to varying degrees ...Yades:<br />I think we all overeact to varying degrees at some time. Its part of being human and being a parent. I don't believe one isolated incident will scar Daniel for life. You may want to find some counseling to send the ghosts of your past packing, I think you sound like an awesome and caring mom. The beauty of kids is their resilience and chances are a smack on the bum for inappropriate behaviour is not completely out of line. Daniel knows better and he wanted a rise and got it, don't let your baggage cloud that he got the response he was trying to elicit. That being said I am such a firm believer in trying to sort out our own shit so we don't pass it on to our kids. Do what you have to do but don't beat yourself up for what has happened - you are doing the best you can and no-one expects more, certainly you should not!!Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12688626489129506705noreply@blogger.com